Ok so I broke into my GP's glovebox and I still find it hard to believe the fuse box was engineered this way...........I cant get to the fuse from the glove box, but I can get to a screw which holds to part the white wire panel connects to from behind. Unscrewing that allowed me to wiggle the fuse box out just enough to remove the defog relay............ I may have installed the new relay incorrectly so Im going to have to pull it again. Im now wondering if I just remove the screw on the white panel and then can easily pull the fuse box out to get it. That will be my next avenue. Of course I forgot to hook up the glovebox light :O