The connector is the one in your picture with the pink wire on the right.
The screws are security torx (I forget which size). You need a torx screwdriver or bit with a hole in the middle of it. Or, you can also use a dremel bit and ground away the pin in the middle of the head of the torx screw.
Thank you!! I have to see if my brother has a torx screwdriver for me. I'll report back.
1997 Grand Prix SE, 3.8L V6 SFI, 140k, purchased on 3/6/10.