I tightened them down until they were hard to move further, plus a little... that seems to be what everyone else does and they didnt have this problem as far as I know... I asked 2 people and they did the same as I did :\.

It seems like it was only the really long bolt that goes through the tb and the one that goes in near the egr that came loose, the ones I can reach with the fuel rail still attached were still solid and dry

I guess I should see if anyone has a torque wrench I could borrow...