Well there was too many words on your post for me to read (I have ADD)... but from what I gathered ... you had HID's hooked up. Unhook them, and put a stock bulb on. See if it lights up... if so, then its your HID setup.

Another simple thing to do ... is get a voltmeter and put on your stock headlight harness.

Also, make sure you check EVERY fuse in the car.

Good Luck.