Ahah we be on the same boat son, I forked over money for a relay and it didn't help me one bit. best way to disable is disconnect the sensor on the dash but then all your lights come on all the time as if it was nighttime which I don't like,

So what I had been doing and guess I will keep doing is flicking off the headlights during the day which becomes a pita

are relays less hard on the system or not?