ya its illegal...just aim them properly and you shouldn't have too much of a problem of blinding people. You don't have that problem much at all with projectors unless they're aimed terribly.
I myself have the black spyder autos. Lo beams are great...hi beams IMO suck terribly....I'm ordering HID HI's tomorrow probably as well as a relay harness for the low and hi beams.
The spyder auto lights are kind of hard to aim. It's annoying having to take the headlight off to aim, then reinstalling, remove, adjust etc. I would say it's worth it though with how much better the lighting is. Also don't over tighten the the 2 bolts that hold the light in, you'll break the plastic.
They're also kind of hard to get flush with the fender. My driver side one is practically perfect. The passenger side one....it needs to come out easily 1/4 of an inch. I just need to adjust that all
Overall the spyder lights are pretty good...i'd probably buy another set if I got another GP for some reason.