If the valve seals were smashed, then that means the rocker is smashing the retainer all the way to the bottom, right? Thinking that through would mean the cam is higher lift than you think it is, the lifter is longer than it should be, the pushrod is longer than it should be or the ratio of the rocker is higher. I can't think of any other way this could happen. Any chance one of those parts are not the right ones?