women suxxx bro been with same girl 4 years and im 23 dammm I wish I did stay single bro it not work drama money *****ing no sex it suxx misss my single days =[
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women suxxx bro been with same girl 4 years and im 23 dammm I wish I did stay single bro it not work drama money *****ing no sex it suxx misss my single days =[
Trust me, I know the pressure well. I mentioned in the above post that I'm a 1st gen American, and with most other cultures, marriage is the norm, not an option (think My Big Fat Greek Wedding). And considering I'm WAY passed my marrying prime (the "late bloomers" MIGHT wait till 25 or so to get married, and I'm way passed that), the pressure has gotten worse from some, while others have dropped it altogether because they gave up. They figure if it hasn't happened by now, it's never going to happen. Regardless, what you're talking about is people just following the status quo of the "to do checklist of life". Whatever they've been taught is the "proper" way to lead your life. Below is something I copy/pasted from another thread a few years back about my long standing thoughts on this subject. Yeah, I know, it's a book. Maybe one day, I'll actually write one, but anyway....Quote:
Originally Posted by 87IROCZOWNER69
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Spoiler alert: The following will probably offend the vast majority of the human population. I don't sugarcoat what I observe and know so as to not "hurt someone's feelings". So if any of you are the sort that can't handle an unorthodox perspective that will most likely offend the mainstream point of view, please just stop reading here.
For years, I've tried to find a way to sum up the basis of most relationships. I finally came across some interesting quotes that hit the nail on the head, including, of all places, a line from Sex in the City I heard a while back while flipping channels. "Practically all the relationships I know are based on a foundation of lies and mutually accepted delusion." Also, before that, a Pink Floyd lyric made quite the statement. "Was it love, or was it the IDEA of BEING in love?" This pretty much says at all. Now before everyone gets all hot and bothered, and goes off on a rant to claim they don't fall into this category, slow down and think about it.
"True love" is just one of the many pieces to what I refer to as "the Matrix programming" we are indoctrinated with from birth. We are taught this fallacy of "true love" almost immediately. We are taught that there is something wrong with you if you don't find your true love, that you must have a b/f or g/f to validate your existence, that there is someone special out there just meant to be with you, and you must find this person. There needs to be someone you can grow old with so that you won't wind up alone/by yourself when you get up there in age. To many, this becomes the most important thing in life, as they don't want to be grilled everyday by parents, family members, co-workers, friends, etc. on why they haven't "found someone yet", a problem that gets worse as you get older.
Unfortunately, this pressure often leads people to making grave mistakes in who they decide to "be with". All too often, we'll share a..."bonding moment" or two with someone, and mistake that for "wow....I think there's something there with this person". We create a relationship out of this, and even when evidence starts pointing to the fact that this relationship will not work out, we ignore them. After all....we're "in love". And isn't love supposed to take a lot of work? So it's only normal if you fight often, or don't get along all that well.
No. That's not "trying to make love work". That's 2 incompatible people FORCING a relationship out of something that's not there, merely based on/because of a couple "tender" moments that they share. Somehow, this eradicates all the bad, or signs that a long-term partnership with this person isn't going to be possible. Sure, no relationship can ever be perfect. But that is very different than continuing a train wreck of a relationship just for the sake of fulfilling that need for "love", or to be loved by someone.
Now I'm sure most of you will look upon this as negativism, or being over the top. My intention is not to be a pessimist. I'm merely outlining what I've observed in almost every relationship (couples AND spouses) I've had the opportunity to be around (friends, family, co-workers, etc). Think about it. Out of the billions upon billions of people on this planet, how realistic is it that the one person meant for you, your one true love, your soul mate, happens to live down the street, or a town over, or goes to your school, or works with you, etc? Yet, we're so sure we're in love with so many people throughout our lifetimes.
Is it not more plausible to presume you're conning yourself into thinking you're in love because you'd love to BE in love, and be in a relationship with someone? Someone you get to see and be with frequently to fulfill your need for love? Is it not more plausible that most relationships are based on mutually agreeing about this delusion in order to keep this happy bliss going?
You're young. Live it up while you can. I'm 21 now and it's taken some time, 3 months or so, after breaking up with my psycho kunt of an ex-girlfriend, that these are the best days of my life. Now I know that I am not looking for an invested relationship and really just wanna get laid as often as possible. So now, I do me (not a sexual innuendo, either.)
This being said, do you. And tell this girl, IDGAFOS.
Look at what dating sites have created. It's simple and yet you shouldn't get excited about it.
If you send someone a request to chat etc and they look at your profile then run screaming, they simply don't respond. Same goes the other way. Do that with this girl, you gave her a chance...she doesn't seem like someone you would want to date, keep on moving.
NEXT!
i have a reslly good question why oh why is this 3 pages long? come on if your that "in need" then go get a lady of the evening or hell a one night stand tyvm
I have no idea why this is still going. I have moved on with this whole situation yet this thing keeps popping up in my email and bringing me back to it. lolQuote:
Originally Posted by ericspecullaas
Just end it hear then, you moved on and thats whats good. you will find someone else sooner or later, and just enjoy your life and if you find someone then have fun together. If you are having fun by your self then imagine the fund with someone else.
lock it!!!!!
Gais......staaaaaahp it. lol
bump.... :)
or you can tell you her since she led you on, she owes you nudes.
then post in FFA. all your problems will be solved.
AgreedQuote:
Originally Posted by ctracer
should have donkey punched her and then walked away. also depending on how old you are just stay single and mingle with all the girls
No no mingle in all the girlsQuote:
Originally Posted by locuno1
Haha I could do that but I don't know if she would be up for that lolQuote:
Originally Posted by ctracer
Punching women is bad. lol I just turned 19 so yeah I'll do that.Quote:
Originally Posted by locuno1
19...u should definitely be mingling inside of all the women thenQuote:
Originally Posted by 87IROCZOWNER69
escort?
Escort what?Quote:
Originally Posted by 99prixgt
escort some vag into that FFA thread.
nuff said.
Know this is a old tread but i just wanted to post this. i haven't been that exact spot as you. but a couple months ago i met a older woman her 30 me 21. Hung out a few times. dates. took things to the bed room a few times. started to fall for her. and told her and she tells me I'm married. have been for 7 years and my husband is a ex army ranger and i have 4 kids. And i said wtf ***** why didn't you tell me this hoe. and she said you didn't ask lol. if that dude finds out about me I'm dead haha