Hey man I'm assuming u have a 3 button dic. For ur first question it has a washer fluid level sensor so when it gets low it'll tell u.

2nd. It most likely has abs. How familiar are u with how everything behind the tire looks?

3rd. For oil I do every 3000 miles but a lot do 5000. It depends on type of oil. How many miles is on the car. And oil filter change every time u change ur oil. As for air filters I would yearly personally but that's me