so i finally got to the bottom of the shaking in the front end . my control arm wasnt bent nor was my sub frame . After 4 different shops and 4 different explainations i took it up to my cousin an hour and a half away and it took him 5 minutes to tell me my wheel bearings where smoked. So we went ahead and replaced the bearings and since we were in there i did the axles and tie rod ends as well . Now its like butter on the interstate. It just goes to show just because someone works at a shop doesnt mean that know jack about what they are doing . Thanks for all the help and suggestions guys its nice to have somewhere to go when i have questions.