Ok so after playing with it I can get them to turn on by jogging the relay #35 around but once on they do not shut off even with car off and key out of ignition but as soon as I start the car back up the lights turn off and won't turn on again untill I jogg the relay again so weird could this be a wiring problem grounding issue because it's not the relay itself because I can swap it out for the ignition relay and it works fine I really don't want to drive around with my hi beams on