I assume you've tried Dynamax (or a similar product) to help with vibration? This always seems to be one of the problem areas when upgrading sound systems. Thanks for the note on the Qt, a good piece of information to know. Though I would be a bit concerned of them getting bright (as you mentioned).
Seeing that mine is set up for XM as well, I am wondering if my module is in the same location which would preclude a dual sub setup.
Given the physical dynamics of the car, it does seem that there are some weird reflections going on. Have you found ways of accounting for this, aside of crossover points (type of tweeter, speaker direction)?
Mine is an '06, but I assume it is the same? If I chose to go with a component set, I assume I could bore out the hole a bit more to fit a 1" tweeter?