Well I cut through the hex head on cat side, and it is for sure not a nut (no thread). On the resonator side I ground flush to backside of flange, and it must be threaded into resonator flange as the flange will not break loose.
I will keep grinding and cutting till it comes loose, just a very strange joint with no clearence holes in the flanges.
When done I guess I will have two holes in each flange.