i wired it up just like you would a fog light kit. thats where the relay came from, a fog light install kit. or you can just buy one.
i have a relay like this, i used a self tapping screw to mount it on the strut tower. GRAINGER APPROVED Automotive Relay, 12VDC, 40A '@' 12V, 30A '@' 12V, 5 Pins, SPDT, Pin Config':' B1, Application':' Change Ove - 5RLU7'|'5RLU7 - Grainger
they sell the relay with a pig tail or you can buy female ends and crimp em on the your own wires you cut to size. how i did mine.