I'm sorry but I agree with this. Its a VERY VERY VERY VERY common issue. There doesn't have to be anything wrong, they splines can just go away without any warning or without any noise. Thats why I'm saying a simple task of just driving on the highway with the car in drove, pull the selector back into 3rd and see what happens. If nothing happens then 4th gear it gone, in which case the most common issue is the splines. If it does go up then you would be correct in assuming its not locking the torque converter.
Lets stop *****ing at each other and just fix the problem, hows that sound?
Try what I said and report back here and we can asses the situation from then.