releasing some steam

**cojo** · 03-22-2009

Grrrr im really getting tired of my gf, family, and others judging me and making me feel alienated for how I treat / do to my GP. I bought my GP with my own money so I wouldnt have to drive in a p.o.s. sun bird, whys it a big deal that I take pride in my car and its my hobby? My gf is always complaining how I act with my car, "its only a car.... you spend too much money on your car...you love your car more than me...and so on" and god for bid I say I need to get some fuel injector cleaner, or need a fuel filter, she even gets mad if I get on this forum! And with my family, its ok for my step dad to spend thousands on customizing his harley thats cool, but its different when I do things with my car. I admit I LOVE my car but I worked hard for it, and its my hobby, I just wish they would atleast try to make an effort... but its ok im still going to do what I love and it is probably true what my gf says, there is always something I want for me car

at least you guys understand right??

sorry need to vent

**Ice Blue La Crosse** · 03-22-2009

Been there on some level with my last 2 cars & will be there with this one..that's life.

**SlowM90** · 03-22-2009

Being a female....and into cars..rmm... Most girls need attention and if your not giving it to her she is going to nag/whine and well if the only thing your doing is spending time with your car she will call you out on it! Maybe explain to her "This is what I like doing if you care for me the respect that" Maybe even ask her if she would willin to learn some about your car and if she has a hobby maybe try to help her or be a part of it. I never understood why people change or people try to change someone they are with....if you love them you love THEM. No matter what they do or how they do it! I learned the hard way but someone who loves you does not and will not try to change you or what you enjoy in life. just my two cents!!!

**PrixT** · 03-22-2009

Originally Posted by Jess3103

Being a female....and into cars..rmm... Most girls need attention and if your not giving it to her she is going to nag/whine and well if the only thing your doing is spending time with your car she will call you out on it! Maybe explain to her "This is what I like doing if you care for me the respect that" Maybe even ask her if she would willin to learn some about your car and if she has a hobby maybe try to help her or be a part of it. I never understood why people change or people try to change someone they are with....if you love them you love THEM. No matter what they do or how they do it! I learned the hard way but someone who loves you does not and will not try to change you or what you enjoy in life. just my two cents!!!

Amen, sister.

I'm guessing that the G/F is probably pretty young. At that age, most of them want a guy to worship them, and give nothing in return... Thats what I've witnessed countless times. Sounds like she has a control problem. My ex husband would get pi$$ed if I even picked up a HORSE magazine...

As for the family, tell them to pound sand. If this is YOUR thing, then its your thing, you don't give them any guff about THEIR thing, right? Don't feel badly about spending money on your car. As long as your responsible to your other commitments, such as bills, living, etc. who gives a fig, eh?

**vailskier3** · 03-22-2009

screw having a gf, i love my GP...your car will always be there for you, your gf may not. don't give up on what makes you happy at the moment because in that moment, it is what makes you happy, and thats all that matters. praise the prix.

i used to have a gf that told me i spent too much money on things too.
since we broke up i have never been so happy because i spend my money on what i want and not worrying about what she was going to think. worked out for me cuz i traded my 91 caprice on an 07 GP!

**QwikGT** · 03-22-2009

how old are you dude? screw the gf, i guarantee she won't be around, you guys sound young. as for the family, hes your step-dad, he has no say, its your car.

**cojo** · 03-22-2009

i take my gf out all the time and do things with her. I think she doesnt understand becuase shes a lil more well off than I am and her parents bought her car and other stuff. So she doesnt understand why I care so much for the car i worked for and bought myself.

**vailskier3** · 03-22-2009

ha...sounds exactly like my ex...take pride in your ride...do what ya want

**madi** · 03-22-2009

ok this is the gf... i dont think this conversation going on about me is fair so i need to defend myself.. i have no problem with him having a hobby or spending money on his car, in fact i was going to help him buy more things for his car. But recently, we have, or at least i have, been trying to save money because we are trying to move in together. Although I dont agree with him coming on this site to vent about it instead of talking to me, if you don't know me or the situation dont call me controlling, nagging, young, needing attention or anything else that was said. thank you!

**NaturallySmashed** · 03-22-2009

women and family come and go but gp's are here for life!

**1998xGTP** · 03-22-2009

Originally Posted by madi

ok this is the gf... i dont think this conversation going on about me is fair so i need to defend myself.. i have no problem with him having a hobby or spending money on his car, in fact i was going to help him buy more things for his car. But recently, we have, or at least i have, been trying to save money because we are trying to move in together. Although I dont agree with him coming on this site to vent about it instead of talking to me, if you don't know me or the situation dont call me controlling, nagging, young, needing attention or anything else that was said. thank you!

That's all I have to say.

**SlowM90** · 03-23-2009

Originally Posted by madi

ok this is the gf... i dont think this conversation going on about me is fair so i need to defend myself.. i have no problem with him having a hobby or spending money on his car, in fact i was going to help him buy more things for his car. But recently, we have, or at least i have, been trying to save money because we are trying to move in together. Although I dont agree with him coming on this site to vent about it instead of talking to me, if you don't know me or the situation dont call me controlling, nagging, young, needing attention or anything else that was said. thank you!

Well since your hear...read up on grand prixs...might impress him some

**Vespers47** · 03-23-2009

wow... interesting... My wife just calls GP's "ugly"... then again... shes a "Ferrari Fan"... part from looking good, Ferrari's are about as bad to me as a bowl of Pork Fried (coming from a Jew) RICE!!!

But hey, waddo I know... I'm just the guy who pays for my own things, right?
Maybe try to get her into GP's... Maybe let her ride shotgun while you let loose on the pedal some... hang her feetsies out the window catching a breeze (lets hope they don't smell) or take her out someplace nice, with some stiletto's or something rollin out the Prix... I was told ONCE that I wasn't paying enough attention to my girl... and I have allotted "guy time" with my Prix... so I gave her attention IN my prix, and it solved two problems... till She tells me shes "missed it" for the month, which will now cause a new issue...

Coupes..... NOT good for a Family and a Car Seat... Hmm... new GP maybe in order...

**DWosik13** · 03-23-2009

I had a gf that was super controlling and did the same ( not comparing the gfs) but it was a bad situation i did everything i could for her and bam i still had no freedom the moment i was doing something for myself i get scolded luckily i just found a new gf and she loves going fast score for me

but anyways he should be able to vent elsewhere cause we all know if we dont get our thoughts straight before going to the significant other and telling her someones bound to get super pissed cause even if your in the most open relationship someone will get mad if you say EVERYTHING thats on your mind before you have cooled down thats why you have friends..... or a forum

p.s. no one is judging the gf but the fact she had to hop on here to at least get her word in kinda would scare me ......

**cojo** · 03-23-2009

Originally Posted by DWosik13

I had a gf that was super controlling and did the same ( not comparing the gfs) but it was a bad situation i did everything i could for her and bam i still had no freedom the moment i was doing something for myself i get scolded luckily i just found a new gf and she loves going fast score for me

but anyways he should be able to vent elsewhere cause we all know if we dont get our thoughts straight before going to the significant other and telling her someones bound to get super pissed cause even if your in the most open relationship someone will get mad if you say EVERYTHING thats on your mind before you have cooled down thats why you have friends..... or a forum

p.s. no one is judging the gf but the fact she had to hop on here to at least get her word in kinda would scare me ......

**DWosik13** · 03-23-2009

and one more thing not to scold her or anything but if she feels she is doing the right thing than there is no need to defend herself

**FoSHO99** · 03-23-2009

Theres very few times when girlfriends/wives will get on here and reply like that without flipping out on everyone... Props. But then again, thats always on clubgp.com and most of the people on their respond to the guy telling him he should stick it in her ass as a way of getting back.

It sounded like there was more to it than just the gf being mad at him for sticking a bunch of money in his car and if you guys are looking at a place together I would turn my attention to saving for that. Wait until you get an actual feel for how much its going to cost you living together until you spend more money on the car, I'm talking like 2-4 months of paying bills.

The way I see it, I have plenty of money for mods on my car, but I try to plan for the next year and a half at least. I have spent way too much already in the short time I've had my car, so I reduced it down to around 600-800 every 3 to 6 months. It keeps me interested in the car longer and by saving money like that, I have the oppurtunity to jump on very nice used parts for a lot cheaper, I'm happier in the longrun.